I am currently in the middle of an online training about reseting the way that you think.
The body of it so far seems to about the choice between two brain settings.
Default thinking or deliberate thoughts.
Your default thinking is something that you fall back on when things get hard or you want to quit. It is, for most people the negative thoughts we tell ourselves and often times causes anxiety.
"I am not successful enough."
"I will never get there."
"I don't have the right genetics to lose weight."
"I am ugly."
"I am to fat."
"I cannot do that"
"No body likes me."
This list can go on and on. These thoughts generally give someone the validation they are seeking to quite pursuing whatever thing it is that they are trying to accomplish.
These are typically themes through out someones life. The person who has been on every crash diet that has been available. The person who never completes a project. The person with a severe case of FOMO.
Deliberate thinking is redirecting those thoughts to something positive. Creating an ANCHOR thought. This is something that I think I will continue to use through out the rest of my career.
Here are my anchor thoughts:
"I am on my own time line, I am exactly where I need to be."
"I am seeking the help to learn who to lose weight and be healthier."
"What is the harm in trying."
"The right people love me"